Many times people call me as a last ditch effort before divorce. This is the hardest time to save a relationship. There are simple things that can be done to help prevent the thought of divorce in the first place:
- Set-up a regular time to communicate your thoughts and feelings.
- If you want your partner to listen....stop blaming.
- Learn to listen when your partner is talking.
- Respond with empathy and try not to get defensive.
- Look for possible solutions together.
- Relationships should be win-win, not a win-lose, so look for ways you both can win.
- Seek support sooner rather then later if you cannot find solutions.
- Try to understand what makes your partner feel loved and then do those loving things as much as possible
- If alcohol use is interferring with communication, stop using.
- Being angry is never an excuse to be hurtful emotionally, verbally or physically to your partner. Use loving words and actions even when you are angry.
Don't wait until you are looking at divorce as an answer. There are many coaches, counselors and pastors that are trained to assist you in having a sucessful relationship.
