Come on, you have to laugh at that premise that 2 people with their differences, should be able to live together in harmony forever. Get Real! So, if we want to live with someone in as much harmony as possible, it seems to me that we should approach that concept with a great deal of humor.

     Humor is a perpective of being able to appreciate what is funny in our life circumstances. Humor at ourselves and our own situation usually work more effectively to calm the conflicts and stresses we all experience in relationship to another. Humor is less effective or frankly, humorous when we are making fun of our partner or laughing at their shame. That is called humiliation, not humor.

    The ability to laugh, the ability to soothe, the ability to find what is funny about 2 different people, with 2 different life experiences, who have grown up in 2 different families, trying to become and live as 1 couple......well, it just might make it possible to live in relative harmony forever.